Tips for Christian Witnessing - from a Former Believer

Unquestionably, each individual is entitled to their personal beliefs and chosen path in life.  For Christians, in an attempt to convert the unbeliever, their faith requires them to share the 'good news' - to witness. This is generally understood by non-believers, who don't object to simple sharing -  unless the conversation requires that reasonable discussion is abandoned in favor of dogmatic sermonizing. The latter becomes negative dialogue that effectively neglects another important tenant of the Christian faith, as found in 1 John 4:7-21....to demonstrate Christlike love.

I'm one of those Athiests who grew up in a Christian family.  Looking back at the thousands of hours I spent in church, I realize something critical.....The church focused on 'edifying' the believer and conveying the urgency to save the lost; providing little training for the practical application of actual witnessing. The believer left the church service feeling positive and 'blessed', pumped up to convert the sinner from the error of their ways, but unequipped to accomplish this goal.  While I no longer subscribe to their belief system, it does pain me to see their genuine efforts hampered by the practice of ineffective methods.

I'm not claiming to be an expert, but I've been both the giver and intended recipient of the Christian message. This makes me very familiar with how the message is conveyed and how it is received.  Now that it's aimed at me, I see some of the areas where believers are tactically failing in their approach.  I've learned some approaches are more successful than others when trying to lead someone to salvation.  The following tips are shared in hopes of promoting positive dialogue between the believer and non-believer.

A few key factors are crucial:

1. The believer should have some type of relationship with the non-believer.  "I'm concerned for your soul" comes across as decidedly disingenuous when there is no ongoing interaction or connectivity present.

2. Give the non-believer a reason to be receptive to the message.  While no one is perfect, the believer's lifestyle, words and actions should be in alignment with their message.  Preaching love and forgiveness while demonstrating anything but effectively draws attention to just one singular truth - hypocrisy.

3. The believer should know what they believe and why.  Citing "I believe the Bible because it says it's true!" may be sufficient reason within the Christian community; however, it's meaningless to someone who doesn't believe the Bible in the first place!  Additionally, it stands to reason that anyone would immediately question the viability of a singular source used to verify its own validity.

4. Quoting scripture verses does not work like a magic trick. Repeating scriptures over and over to convince the listener rarely results in them experiencing a sudden epiphany.  Also of note: many former believers have been exposed to these passages countless times, and do not receive them as new, and therefore relevant, information. 

5. Nix the Gloom and Doom.  Some Christians resort to the tactic of 'hellfire and brimstone' to scare their listeners into conversion.  What believers may not realize is that this approach is perceived as bullying and and an attempt to coerce out of fear. If becoming a Christian is such a celebratory decision - be positive, be joyful and share the good news!

6. It's not about church attendance.  A common misconception among believers is that the non-believer just hasn't been to the 'right' church or heard the 'right' pastor.  Church may have its place, but it shouldn't take a particular sermon or environment to convert someone.  Besides, Christianity isn't one single point or perspective, it's an understanding.

7. Learn more than one 'sales' approach.  If a particular angle isn't working, don't get angry or defensive, and by all means, don't resort to attacking the listener's character.  Know your audience, and simply try a different tactic.

8. True conversion is from the heart.  Be wary of mistaking compliance or acquiescence for actual conversion.  Someone that converts due to peer pressure is not rooted and grounded in their decision and will just as easily backslide.  Until head knowledge becomes heart knowledge, it's not genuine understanding.

9. When all else fails - demonstrate consistent and heartfelt love.  People of every background are drawn to light and warmth - I can assure you it goes a very long way, speaks louder than words, and emphasizes the sincerity of your heart.

10. It's not for Everyone.  Personal beliefs are just that, personal.  Despite the most heroic attempts to convince others of their need for an eternal Savior, it is a decision that must be left to the listener. It is important to remember that the obligation is on sharing the message, not actual soul conversions.

Ultimately, as believers and non-believers, there will be times we must agree to disagree, and follow our separate paths.  While we can debate the question of an unknown and unconfirmed afterlife, let's not get so caught up in being 'right' that we waste precious time on what is known.

Our Here and Now.

As Charles is often quoted as saying....."Everybody, just play nice."

Rika